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Have you ever wondered how grapes change color by looking at each other? Or do people also change color—become hardened or influenced—by looking at one another? If your answer is yes, keep reading!
The proverb “Üzüm üzüme baka baka kararır” describes how people who spend time together, laugh together, play together, and become friends gradually begin to resemble each other in character.
It expresses how, in daily life, people’s behaviors, speech, and shared habits can make them more alike over time.
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What Does This Proverb Mean?
People who spend time with their friends or acquaintances gradually begin to be influenced by their speech, movements, and behaviors, and eventually by their thoughts and character traits. For example, consider two friends who constantly play games together, eat meals together, read books, and paint. One is more practical and quick, while the other is slower and more detail-oriented. Over time, the slower one may become more practical, while the quick and active one may begin to pay more attention to details.
This phenomenon is not always positive. Sometimes, bad friendships can lead to adopting negative traits. For instance, a friend who frequently uses slang and coarse language may negatively influence someone who normally expresses themselves with clean and refined speech.
Where Does This Proverb Come From?
We call proverbs short, concise expressions passed down orally from generation to generation, carrying instructive meanings. The proverb “Üzüm üzüme baka baka kararır” originated, like others, from an observation. The Turkish people noticed that grapes ripen together on the vine and, recognizing that people also influence one another when they are in close company, began using this saying.
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How Is It Used in Daily Life?
This proverb can be used in daily life when you notice that you and a friend, sibling, or family member have started to exhibit similar behaviors after spending time together or engaging in shared activities. Sometimes it is used humorously, and sometimes seriously.
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