The Invisible Face

"I didn’t understand, perhaps I would never understand."

By nature, human beings need to form relationships and share with others.

What I could not understand and believed to be an invisible, hidden part is this: in the act of forming relationships, is everyone sincere?

Do they truly open up? Do they feel at ease?

There are many more questions like these. Getting to know others and trying to understand them—all of this hinges on one key: sincerity.

Over many years of engaging with people, I noticed that most individuals struggle with trust issues—and they are not entirely to blame.

Because you place complete trust in someone, you share deeply with them, and then for some reason, that person suddenly disappears from your life.

I don’t understand: what motivation drives people to keep trying to form new relationships? How do they not give up?

Perhaps their only motivation is, in their own words, experience.

Or perhaps it is the hope of building a healthy relationship—who knows?

But I do not agree with this.

You share with someone, you build dreams together—and to dismiss all of that as mere "experience" is deeply painful.

I know there is nothing we can do about it.

Perhaps this is inherent in the nature of relationships, but at the very least, to minimize this pain, we must avoid placing too much meaning on the people we form relationships with,

and we must not assign them more responsibility than they can bear.

Most importantly, we must reduce our expectations. The end of relationships built with the fewest expectations can also be the least painful...